At Infinity Relations, we meet many people who are confident and successful in life, yet find love confusing or elusive. In his book 8 Rules of Love, author Jay Shetty offers a refreshing and structured approach to love, one that moves beyond fairy tales and fleeting attraction. He shows us that love is something we build, not something we simply fall into.
Love isn’t intuitive for most of us. We learn about it through films, social media, or our upbringing, all of which can leave us with distorted expectations. Jay Shetty invites us to stop leaving love to chance and start treating it as an intentional, daily practice.
Before we can truly connect with someone else, we need to feel whole on our own. Shetty highlights the difference between loneliness and solitude. When we embrace being alone, we gain emotional strength, self-awareness, and clarity on what we value: foundations for any meaningful relationship.
We all carry emotional baggage from our past. Whether it’s family dynamics, failed relationships, or cultural expectations, these experiences shape our idea of love. Shetty reminds us that we can choose to learn from the past and stop repeating the same mistakes. Self-awareness is key.
What does love really mean to you? Emotional safety? Physical closeness? Shared goals? Many people say “I love you” without knowing what it really signifies. Shetty encourages us to define love clearly for ourselves and to take the time to explore compatibility before making deep commitments.
A fulfilling relationship isn’t just about comfort, it’s about growth. Shetty compares partners to spiritual teachers or “gurus” who help each other evolve. This mindset helps us see challenges not as dealbreakers, but as opportunities to grow individually and together.
Healthy love requires a strong sense of self and purpose. When each partner is aligned with their life mission (dharma), the relationship becomes more supportive and balanced. Whether you’re building a business, pursuing a creative path, or raising a family, your calling matters and so does your partner’s.
Conflict is natural, but how we handle it makes all the difference. Shetty outlines the difference between toxic and constructive conflict, encouraging couples to fight fair, communicate with clarity, and find peace together. True connection includes the courage to resolve – not avoid- disagreements.
A breakup can feel like the end of the world, but it’s not the end of you. Shetty reminds us that we existed before the relationship and we’ll exist after it, too. Healing comes when we invest in ourselves and rebuild from a place of self-worth, not fear.
Finally, love isn’t limited to romantic relationships. We can and should cultivate loving energy in all areas of life: with friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers. Acts of appreciation, empathy, and understanding create a ripple effect of connection that touches everyone around us.
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